On Passive Aggression; The Virtue of (April 5, 2010)
“I never even thought about it not working out. I wasn’t even thinking. Everyone is smiling and happy in the pictures. Now our life is a stand off, a percolating feud. I can’t fight and I can’t flee. I go to my 10 by 10 foot cubicle every morning and yet feel lucky that I have a cubicle to go to every morning. Then I go back to my other prison cell at night. It’s like a work release program and, don’t get me wrong about the work, if I get released from work I’m a goner. A friend let things get out of hand and found his hands tied. By the police. Power move. He couldn’t get released over the weekend. So now he sports the dv charge and vd. I’d like to get in the car and drive until I run out of gas, money or road. But I can’t. So we fight passively. She takes a shot and then I take a shot and then we flee to our corners and call a short truce. The kids perceive everything. Staying together may be better than separating. When you think about it every day, it’s passive but it’s aggressive and it’s the only workable response. I hope this isn’t too heavy. You don’t need this. If I didn’t get out here now and then, I’d explode.”
Bumper stickers of the week:
Marriage is grand; divorce is one hundred grand.
The Family – The Backbone Of A Community
A secret to a good marriage is to have a quick mind and a slow mouth . . . Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring and integrity, they think of you.